Harry and divorcee Meghan’s wedding is proof the royals are changing, TIME reported. Much has changed since last time an American divorcee married into the family when Edward VIII gave up the throne to marry Mrs Simpson in 1937 and the 1950s when the Queen’s sister Princess Margaret was forced to choose duty over love and declined the marriage proposal of divorced Group Captain Peter Townsend.
Mistakes are part of life, but intelligence means not repeating the same mistakes over and over – while expecting different results.
Most couples who stay together for more than ten years would probably agree that a relationship is a humbling school of self-knowledge, whose lessons reappear until we learn them. We also discover that long-term relationships provides constant demand to grow up or get out.
Successful relationships are built with the bricks of friendship, communication, honesty, loyalty and on occasion, putting our partner’s needs and wishes before our own. If we continuously struggle to improve our partner (“if only s/he would stop doing X or start doing more Y”) – that relationship becomes war.
We can only control our own behaviour, maybe a successful relationship comes down to the capacity to put up with each other. It’s all part of the dance.
Few of us consciously intend to undermine our relationships or careers. Yet we remain unaware that lessons reappear until we learn them. The more we learn, the more adaptable we become and the fewer mistakes we repeat.
Learning requires change; change requires losing face. Nothing really changes until we do. Charles Darwin explained what happens to animal species that fail to adapt to changing circumstances. They cease to be.